No. Goes against my belief system and my parents would have disowned me. We've been together 10 years and married since 2001.
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OT: Married blingers...did you live together before marriage?
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Posts: 530 07/01/09 15:55:16 |
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Aditi9 |
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Posts: 97 07/01/09 15:58:07 |
I have no plans to live with somebody unless we are engaged... it wouldn't be "right" to me. but to each there own!
Aditi
East Indian, Dark brown eyes, blackish brown hair,PX y/o Fresh Gold, golden undertones, MAC NC40,dry from Accutane,skin 25 buzzing from Seattle
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Posts: 656 07/01/09 16:10:53 |
I've been married almost 30 years. It really wasn't done much that long ago. We got married 6 months after we met too so there wasn't really time
to live together. Both of my sons though lived with their now wives before getting engaged and I was fine with their decisions. The grandmas on the other hand
were aghast!
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Yvette31 |
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Posts: 223 07/01/09 17:31:20 |
Yes, we did for about 9 months. I wasn't something we had really planned, but we started looking for a house, looked at lots of them....found the right one
and bought it together. We both had separate apartments, and it didn't make sense to pay two rents AND a mortgage. So we moved into our house.
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ocgirlie |
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Posts: 92 07/01/09 18:19:19 |
No. DH and I met when I was still in high school. After he graduated from college he moved to a different state for graduate school. That was about 4 years
into our relationship. We were in a long distance relationship for almost 6 years before we got married. I wanted to stay where I was to finish my education
before we moved in together or got married.
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Junglegirl |
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Posts: 144 07/01/09 18:23:27 |
No, before we got married I was living at home with my parents and he was living on his own. We celebrated our 17th anniversary last month.
Personally, I'm glad we didn't. I didn't have much respect for commitment back then, and we probably would have had a silly fight, resulting in one of us moving out, and we wouldn't have gotten married. To me, marraige was a big commitment and I was more willing to work through things once we had the rings on. I wouldn't have taken living together as seriously, so it's very possible we wouldn't have ended up together. He is the love of my life, so I'm very glad we did things the way we did. I can't imagine how my life would have turned out without him! My parents would have been very upset, which is another reason why we didn't. They have been a good example for me, and are celebrating their 50th anniversary this year! |
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yawadah |
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Posts: 308 07/01/09 18:33:15 |
We didn't. He wouldn't have minded but for moral and financial reasons I had no interest in living withh someone. I'm strange that way--show me the
paper before we mingle money.
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Mandy Christine.beautybuzz |
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Posts: 56 07/01/09 19:39:07 |
Thanks everyone! This is so interesting to me...all the different points of view. Obviously it seems that there is really no direct link between cohabitation
and marriage success...it's only one part of a lot of other factors. BF and I aren't planning on moving in together anytime soon, but we're not
planning on getting engaged anytime soon either. We're just not in a hurry...maybe once we get to that stage we will consider moving in together.
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pearliegirl |
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Posts: 287 07/01/09 19:49:21 |
We did also, I was 19 and he was 22 and we lived together for two years before getting knocked up and married. I have never lived with another male apart from
my dad and brother, but it wasn't that big of an adjustment. We both needed to move at the same time (I had temporarily moved in with my parents as my
previous living arrangements had ended and my room-mate transferred to another city) and he was bunking down at his brother's place so it was a sensible
thing to do financially/practically. I think we would have moved in together anyway. We have been married 14 years this month.
Hi from Australia!
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lipsticklady |
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Posts: 210 07/01/09 20:10:37 |
Valerie...my soul sister!!
Not only would my mother have NEVER allowed it, but she said she wouldn't pay for any part of a wedding if we lived together. (Keep in mind this was 1976) We started dating in February, got engaged in June and married in November...all in the same year. We have been married for over 32 years! My DD #1 started dating her (now) DH when she was 16. They moved in together when she was 21 and got married when she was 23. |
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CarolD59 |
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Posts: 254 07/01/09 22:39:24 |
Hubby lived with me, in my parents house the last 3 months before be were married. We moved out after we were married. We will be celebrating our 29th wedding
anniversary in August! We have been together since Dec. of 1976 when I was barely 17, and hubby was 22. WOW how time flies!
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CityGirl35 |
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Posts: 285 07/01/09 22:43:43 |
This is all very interesting to read....BF and I are *just* starting to talk about all this stuff, so despite what everyone says, I guess its good to see it
can work out if you live together beforehand. My parents know we've been talking about living together, and they haven't said one thing against it. My
brother and SIL *barely* lived together before getting married 9 years ago so this is all new to them. And me, too, I guess...I've never lived with a guy
before!
 But we'll see how it pans out...
I agree with the group that I'd never live with someone unless the long-term was discussed as well.
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29 y/o from NYC....Pale skin (Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer in Porcelain)....Long, deep brown hair & brown eyes. If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid. -Epictetus |
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vampygirl13 |
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Posts: 797 07/02/09 04:10:34 |
I just read a study that said that people who live together before marriage are more likely to get divorced. Doesn't make much sense to me, but take it
with a grain of salt.
DH and I were together for 6 months before we married, so we never lived together. Which was probably a good thing since we are so different. He's the neat one, I'm not etc. I think it forced us to battle it out and find a system that worked (even that took a long while!). I think you have to do what's best for you. I know people who lived together for 10 years, got married and were divorced in 6 months. I also know my cousin who did not live with his first wife, got married and divorced in year. Now with his fiance--he said they HAD to live together so he knew what he was getting into. I was married at 20, so if I were ever single again I have no idea what I would do!
vampygirl 13
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JLL9 |
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Posts: 52 07/02/09 12:18:25 |
No, DH and I did not live together before marriage. We've been married for 10 years and counting.
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StillSheryl |
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Posts: 87 07/02/09 12:30:38 |
Nope. It was in the 70's and my parents also would have disowned me. Actually, as I look back, I'm glad we didn't. We were married 34 years in
January.
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FloridaIsa |
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Posts: 269 07/02/09 14:56:21 |
nope. old fashioned Cuban parents....need i say more?
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auntsus |
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Posts: 364 07/02/09 18:02:46 |
Yes, we were together 2 1/2 years and then bought a place together. A year later we got engaged and a year after that were married. We will be celebrating our
21st anniversary in September. I'll admit we were young, but determined! DH's parents have now been married 54 years and before my father passed away
my parents were married 35 years . Both traditional families but both were very supportive.
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OlgaH |
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Posts: 383 07/02/09 20:29:11 |
nope. old fashioned Cuban parents....need i say more?
nope.. I got the same deal in the parent department... but mine are Middle Eastern.
but to each their own.. I've seen living together work and have seen it not work. oh.. married 29 years Olga
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ty19 |
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Posts: 386 07/03/09 01:52:31 |
Nope! I lived with another boyfriend after college. We built a business together & commingled money. When we broke up, I literally left with the clothes on
my back. I lost everything. But I did regain my life and moved on to healthier relationships, which is worth a helluva lot more.
Playing house can be fun, but you are going to start doing more "wifely" things. My ex was a great cook but was soon as we moved in together, he bought me some cookbooks, and told me I needed to learn. If I was married to him, I probably would have gotten some money out of the deal. But I was young & too emotionally destroyed to fight for what was mine. But on the other hand, marrying him would have been a huge mistake! If you are interested in getting married & having children, I would have a timeline. Because women can blink & boom they have been living with a guy for 20 yrs with no sign of marriage. And I've known some guys who live with women b/c it's convenient, but are still on the lookout for "wife material." With my DH, I stayed over his place a lot, and really observed how he is. Of course there are some surprises when you actually live together. So I would have a chat with your boyfriend to see if you have similar goals & go from there. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here.
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Kizah |
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Posts: 283 07/03/09 06:59:05 |
Officially, no...but technically, yes. We were moving across the hall from my apartment and he just kept moving more and more stuff in and eventually it just
made more sense to stay.
Kizah
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